My mom forwarded an email to me between her and her friend.
To: Mom
Subject: Re: hello
Yes, I came back yesterday and it was a little crazy......still trying to get back in the swing of things!!! How are you doing? How is Laurie feeling? Hope Lisa, kids, and the rest of the family are doing well.
From: Mom
Subject Fw: Re: hello
Everybody always asks the same thing about you...........
My reply:
Tell me about it. They ask me as well. It's like, HELLO? Do you think you are the only one who is asking me? Not every pregnant woman has morning sickness. Do you really want to know how I feel? I'm tired of everyone asking me how I feel. I can't sleep, no it's not because the baby, at least the way you think, it's because I have insomnia and I can't take my sleep aid. I have headaches, no it's not because of the baby, it's because I can't take the good drugs. I'm fat. I have zits. My nails and hair won't quit growing. I am perfectly aware it's the vitamins everyone before you has told me that, duh. My clothes don't fit right, even the maternity clothes. I'm perfectly aware I'm getting big I look at myself naked every morning. I have lots of anxiety attacks because I can't take my medication. No I'm not breast feeding, if you try to make me feel guilty about it I'll go off on you like I have everyone else. No I'm not moody because of the baby, I'm a blunt witch who is tired of people only asking about the damn baby.
She knows how annoyed I get with the whole “you’re pregnant you are less then a human and more of an oven. We can only discuss your pregnancy and children with you now” mentality people have about pregnant women. Just like when I tell people I don’t like kids. I don’t. Most of them are brats who get on my nerves. If they are well behaved and respectful I do like them. I like my niece and nephew. I like two of my little cousins. I also like my friend’s five children who are two years apart. I come by my dislike of children naturally. My mother doesn’t like them, she liked us and the grandchildren. My paternal grandmother didn’t like them, she liked the grandkids and maybe her four boys. She didn’t really like the bratty the grandkids though, her favorite was me. If she had to be around more then one, she preferred my sister and me. I look around at Wal-Mart, Target, the grocery store, functions with our friends, and family functions, I began to notice that there is a lot coddling and lazy parenting. Which goes hand in hand with why so many child free people don’t like children. I believe that from the beginning the parent is the boss. It is your job to guide your child in the right direction. Teach them the consequences of their actions. The difference between right and wrong. How treat their fellow human beings, pets, and possessions. I see children doing things in public that I wouldn’t even have thought of doing at home, much less in public. I knew what was expected of me. I wasn’t perfect but I learned that one warning was all I needed before getting in real trouble. I was encouraged to read by my mother. Not only did she read to me as a child but also set the example by reading in front of me. Yes we had video games, but that was not the main focus of entertainment. We also had cable in the early 80s, and I did watch a lot of TV, but I was usually reading with the TV on in the background. As much as I love my niece and nephew I can tell they feel a sense of entitlement on things, cell phones, video games, clothes, and anything.
While I’m sure I’ll piss a lot of people off with this post, its how I feel. Berating me for it will only cause me to ignore or delete your reply. I’m not going to get into a long argument about Dr. Spock and his followers. This is what I have noticed in my 31 years on this planet. I know discipline for every child is different. I learned that with the way my sister and I were raised. I usually only needed the initial threat, she required the actual punishment.But what am I supposed to think when I'm min Mcdonalds and three children are literally running around barefoot screaming because their parent/guardian isn't paying attention? Or I'm at a store and child is no where near a parent and they are being disruptive? I understand temper tantrums will be thrown when a small child isn't getting their way, I know my sister and I did it at the young age. I'm more disgusted with the 7-16 year olds behaving the same way.
To: Mom
Subject: Re: hello
Yes, I came back yesterday and it was a little crazy......still trying to get back in the swing of things!!! How are you doing? How is Laurie feeling? Hope Lisa, kids, and the rest of the family are doing well.
From: Mom
Subject Fw: Re: hello
Everybody always asks the same thing about you...........
My reply:
Tell me about it. They ask me as well. It's like, HELLO? Do you think you are the only one who is asking me? Not every pregnant woman has morning sickness. Do you really want to know how I feel? I'm tired of everyone asking me how I feel. I can't sleep, no it's not because the baby, at least the way you think, it's because I have insomnia and I can't take my sleep aid. I have headaches, no it's not because of the baby, it's because I can't take the good drugs. I'm fat. I have zits. My nails and hair won't quit growing. I am perfectly aware it's the vitamins everyone before you has told me that, duh. My clothes don't fit right, even the maternity clothes. I'm perfectly aware I'm getting big I look at myself naked every morning. I have lots of anxiety attacks because I can't take my medication. No I'm not breast feeding, if you try to make me feel guilty about it I'll go off on you like I have everyone else. No I'm not moody because of the baby, I'm a blunt witch who is tired of people only asking about the damn baby.
She knows how annoyed I get with the whole “you’re pregnant you are less then a human and more of an oven. We can only discuss your pregnancy and children with you now” mentality people have about pregnant women. Just like when I tell people I don’t like kids. I don’t. Most of them are brats who get on my nerves. If they are well behaved and respectful I do like them. I like my niece and nephew. I like two of my little cousins. I also like my friend’s five children who are two years apart. I come by my dislike of children naturally. My mother doesn’t like them, she liked us and the grandchildren. My paternal grandmother didn’t like them, she liked the grandkids and maybe her four boys. She didn’t really like the bratty the grandkids though, her favorite was me. If she had to be around more then one, she preferred my sister and me. I look around at Wal-Mart, Target, the grocery store, functions with our friends, and family functions, I began to notice that there is a lot coddling and lazy parenting. Which goes hand in hand with why so many child free people don’t like children. I believe that from the beginning the parent is the boss. It is your job to guide your child in the right direction. Teach them the consequences of their actions. The difference between right and wrong. How treat their fellow human beings, pets, and possessions. I see children doing things in public that I wouldn’t even have thought of doing at home, much less in public. I knew what was expected of me. I wasn’t perfect but I learned that one warning was all I needed before getting in real trouble. I was encouraged to read by my mother. Not only did she read to me as a child but also set the example by reading in front of me. Yes we had video games, but that was not the main focus of entertainment. We also had cable in the early 80s, and I did watch a lot of TV, but I was usually reading with the TV on in the background. As much as I love my niece and nephew I can tell they feel a sense of entitlement on things, cell phones, video games, clothes, and anything.
While I’m sure I’ll piss a lot of people off with this post, its how I feel. Berating me for it will only cause me to ignore or delete your reply. I’m not going to get into a long argument about Dr. Spock and his followers. This is what I have noticed in my 31 years on this planet. I know discipline for every child is different. I learned that with the way my sister and I were raised. I usually only needed the initial threat, she required the actual punishment.But what am I supposed to think when I'm min Mcdonalds and three children are literally running around barefoot screaming because their parent/guardian isn't paying attention? Or I'm at a store and child is no where near a parent and they are being disruptive? I understand temper tantrums will be thrown when a small child isn't getting their way, I know my sister and I did it at the young age. I'm more disgusted with the 7-16 year olds behaving the same way.
4 comments:
There is an article on Fark that I read recently that you'd love.
B and I were laughing over it, and how the "this is my child, and the world revolves around us now" people started in. Lemme find it....hold on.....
Stop whinging, I'll find it soon....
Okay, I can't find it (and after 20 minutes of searching). But rest assured, it was good. I'll ask B once he finally gets his ass out of bed.
The world doesn't revolve around because you spawned nor does the world revolve around your spawn.
My parents still had a life outside of Lisa and Laurie.
Tell that to my sister-in-law. When B originally showed me the article, he actually said "It's not just (them) that act like the world should be on their knees worshipping their genetics!!"
Larry, I love you more and more every day! I hate children as a rule, because, as you so rightly say, they're brats with parents who think their child is so wonderful that they can do anything they please. WRONG. Get your kid some discipline before I growl at it and it screams.
I'm sure yours will be one of the few exceptions to my rule of hating anything between the ages of pre-walk and talk to twenties. I'm also sure that while I can show an interest in bump, I can also show an interest in the person you are and have always been.
I have to say that I find many people with children terribly boring, because all they talk about is what "delights" their children have been up to, and frankly, most of the time, I'm not interested in drool, potty training, poo on the carpet and the other lovely things children do. I'm not the child's friend at the end of the day...
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